_If you are 40 or older and married, you may feel your relationship isn't as satisfying as it once was. Marriages go through ebbs and flows. Some marriages are heading for divorce due to a variety of reasons.

One reason marriages become sour is one or both partners feel they are being taken for granted. Once this feeling surfaces, it's hard to get back that loving feeling. But, it isn't impossible. Both partners need to be in tune with each other. Too much resentment and anger can build up over time when couples don't understand the other's behavior or feelings.

You are probably now asking, 'just how do you tune in to your partner'? Observe, pay attention and listen. Listening isn't just about hearing, but understanding what your partner is saying. When your partner says you nag too much, that's a clue to their feelings. It isn't just about an insult toward you, but about how they feel when you nag. If your marriage means something to you, assess what your partner complains about. Are you willing to make changes to make your marriage thrive?

On the flip side, your partner needs to 'listen' to what you are nagging about. Learn to communicate better about how you feel. Most people nag, but really don't say what they feel. Express your feelings so your partner will be in tune with what you are really trying to get across.

 


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