Being a friend with your ex depends a lot on how the relationship ended. If the relationship ended on bad terms, think twice before entering into a friendship with that person. History has a tendency of repeating itself.

Think carefully about what kind of friend you want. Most people want a friend who is honest, respectful, kind and not judgemental. If that is the case, someone you have been in a relationship with, who is a habitual liar or a cheater, won't fit the criteria of a friend.

If your ex was an abusive person, physically or emotionally, it would not be wise to get involved as a friend. No one deserves to be mistreated. It is not worth risking your well-being for someone who has a history of abusing you.

Perhaps your ex is ready to start dating again and comes to you for relationship advice. Could you handle it on a friendship level? Would you criticize every person your ex is with because you aren't happy with the situation?

Question the reasons your ex wants to be friends. Do you see an ulterior motive? Do they truly miss you?

Always keep in mind- "To have a friend, one must be a friend". Consider the advantages and disadvantages of pursuing a friendship with your ex. How will being friends affect your well-being? Don't discount an ex being a friend, but give great thought before saying yes!
 


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