_ Recognizing abuse in a marriage is not always easy because you are clouded by your feelings, your fear and your definition of equality in a marriage. Abuse is more than just the physical aspect. There is also verbal abuse and emotional abuse – two types of abuse that many married partners are oblivious to. Some people think that because you are married you can treat your spouse any way you want. This is not true. Be alert in your marriage and recognize if you’re being abused early on to avoid further damage.

Control is probably one of the main reasons why abuse happens in a marriage. One partner wants more control and when they get it, they want even more. Take some time to analyze your relationship. Don’t cloud your thoughts over your feelings and be honest with yourself for your own sake and your children's sake. Does your partner continuously order you around to the point that they hurt or belittle you with words? Do they curse and insult you repeatedly? Do they put you down and make you feel bad about yourself? These are just a few of the questions that you should ask yourself.

Physical abuse is obvious to outsiders, yet some people don't realize that it is actually abuse. Your spouse should never hit you under any circumstances. Do not make excuses for your spouse. Just because they had a bad day or because dinner isn't on time, is not a reason for someone to hit you. For some people, physical abuse feels familiar because that is what they had in childhood. Some people will go for years thinking that being hit is ok because of this familiarity.

Curses, insults and the unequal treatment of a partner are just some situations that display abuse in a marriage. If your partner is seriously starting to make you look down on yourself, that’s already abuse. You cannot let anyone, even your partner, ruin you just because you stood in front of an altar to say “I do". If the relationship is not healthy for you, help yourself, take a stand and tell someone before it’s too late. Abuse can get out of hand to the point you could lose your own life. You deserve better!

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